Breaking up with Toxic Friendships

I’m sure we have all dealt with a friendship or two, that has been detrimental to our own life and wellbeing. The problem is that we may put up with them for too long out of the kindness of our own hearts. Should we feel guilty for cutting out these so called “friends” from our lives? I think not….

What does a toxic friendship look like?

Those who spread negativity- Everything that comes out of their mouth is negative… Complaining about this and that to the point that it’s not even a conversation anymore, it’s you sitting there becoming a punching bag for all of their negative emotions. The problem is they drain you until your tank is empty and you do not have the energy for yourself. Stay away from these people…… they love and feed of negativity and drama.

Those who try to criticize you all of the time- “Why do you wear so much makeup”, “why are you wearing that we are only going shopping”. I understand constructive criticism and people that actually want to help you and your growth and development in life, but criticizing you on silly things that make a person who they are is just toxic… who cares if they want to dress up a bit more, maybe they like fashion. Stick with empowering people and the ones that love you for you!!

Those that waste your time- Time is your most valuable possession, we can’t get it back and we never have enough of it. If you have someone that is constantly not respecting you by showing up hours later without good reason, when you could have done something else with your time… is that really fair? I understand people have their moments and trust me I am one of them but usually it’s my condition that can cause me to be tardy and trust me I feel like a horrible person for it.

Those who are jealous- They truly do not want you to succeed in life or do better than they are. “Pay close attention to the people that don’t clap when you win”. We are all in this crazy life together so why not support and empower each other instead of making it a competition. Those that are consumed with jealousy usually have their own self confidence issues… so really it has nothing to do with you. Instead they should be working on improving their own self confidence, not wasting time breaking others down.

Those who use and abuse you- Don’t you just love it when people come around only when they need something? Come on…. it’s super obvious. I haven’t spoken to you in six months and yet here you are wanting to borrow an outfit or talk about a boyfriend that just broke up with you for the 15th time, that I know that you are going to ignore everything that I say and run back to him and not hear from you for another 6 months. It’s really not fun to be used……and when it starts becoming a pattern don’t be surprised if people start to ignore your messages.

Those who play the victim- They make you feel guilty for hanging out with other people or wanting to experience different things. They will literally pull guilt trip and make you feel like a horrible person just for being normal. No one owns you, remember you are entitled to have more than one friend….. you are not a horrible person, even if they make you feel that you are.

One sided friendships– They never check in on you, it’s always about their day or what they’ve been up to. Everything is usually all about them and what they want to do. How is that even fun? If you feel like you are constantly in the back seat I think it’s time to analyze your worth and if you deserve this treatment. Friendship is a two sided relationship…. and it should always be that way, otherwise it’s time to let go.

Friendships will always have their ups and downs. They won’t always be sunshine and roses and yes there will be times when you need to help each other through some of the hard times. That’s just it though, friendships are there to help each other grow, to want the best for each other, to celebrate the good and to pull through the bad. You are both on the same level, no need for jealousy or hatred, life is too short to be anything but happy. And a good friend to experience life with just makes it that much better. Friendship isn’t counted in numbers it’s counted by quality. I’d rather have one amazing friend than 10 let’s just call them “acquaintances”.

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Stunning Rv Transformation- Creating Your Very Own Beach Oasis

I had purchased my first camper with so much excitement!!! Finally a home away from home, surrounded by nature and campfires. The camper was in excellent shape, as the couple before rarely used it. The first year owning it we just took it all in and enjoyed the new space. The second year during winter is when the wheels started spinning in my head, knowing that I could make this space into something so much more. A place customized to me, modernized, and a place to kick back and relax. Here is what the camper looked like before it turned into our beach oasis.

So tell me this….. why must all camper decor include floral patterns and wallpaper? The colours just felt way too blah for a space that is supposed to be considered a getaway. I started to do my research and asked the BF if he was down for a project!!!

First things first I had to choose a colour scheme and a theme to go with. I wanted to brighten it up but also add a pop of colour. We chose light grey for the walls, white for the cupboards, doors, trim and benches. I would then add teal accents afterwards to bring in the beach vibe. Because it was too cold to start painting inside the camper we used my boyfriends heated garage to start on the cupboard doors, as you are able to take them off. We used the https://www.homedepot.com/p/Rust-Oleum-Transformations-Light-Color-Cabinet-Kit-9-Piece-258109/202572588 and had it tinted to the “pure white”. This removes the work of sanding, as you use a deglosser instead, which worked great. It said we would only need to use 2 coats……. but to make it look really good we used four.

We used brushes to paint with because it helped keep the wood grain show through. Ended up swapping the old tarnished brass hardware for updated silver ones, that looked sharp with the white. I found those at home hardware (make sure they match up with your old holes, as there is no reason to make new ones).

As it became warm enough to paint in the camper we painted the rest of the cabinets inside. We had to keep a heater on throughout the process because temperatures dropped at night. Also made sure that the cupboards were properly degreased with the solution included in the kit, so the paint would go on perfectly. Half way through painting the cupboards we realized that we were using up a lot of that cabinet paint and it’s pretty expensive, so we added a coat of the Bulls Eye 1,2,3 primer before putting on the paint. It helped to cut down on the cabinet paint coats.

Next up were the vinyl walls!!! First of all I wanted to get that disgusting wall paper border that was seen throughout the camper off. Some people say to paint over it but I didn’t want the lines. We were able to just rip it off and then scrub off the left over glue residue with Goo Gone. Next we ripped off all the valences (those tacky frames around the windows), took off the blinds and even the window frames to make it easier to paint. Removed all light switch/plug plates. Next we had to clean the walls very well with T.S.P. https://goo.gl/images/AWNvs4 Make sure to wear a mask while doing this because it can be pretty harsh on the lungs. After we T.S.P’d the walls, rinsed them and let them dry we were ready for the first coat of primer!

I think we only needed one coat of the primer as it works really well. Next was paint!! We used a bathroom paint for the whole camper because of the moisture that they bring in. We wanted the paint job to last! One coat could have been enough but we did two! We used a brush to get the edges but a roller for the rest.

If you are wondering why the cabinets don’t look painted yet in this picture, they aren’t. I forgot that we did one room at a time, so that’s when we decided to put a coat of primer on them before the cabinet paint. (So much better). The painting was complete!!!!!!! Sigh of relief. It is quite the challenge painting in such small areas.

Next we had to get rid of that hideous couch design but I’m not the best at sewing. I went shopping with my mom at Sears Outlet and managed to find these light grey blankets that hid the couch nicely without looking tacky. Best part is you can take them off to clean!!!

Another big project was the dinette cushions that had the same horrible pattern as the couches. Well we were in luck! Our giant fabric store was closing out and selling their fabrics for a fraction of the cost, so once again me and my mother went shopping.

We found this beautiful white and grey patterned material for the back cushion and used a flat grey material for the bottom cushion. The bottom material was actually a materialized shower curtain, which we thought was perfect incase of spills or wet bathing suits. My mom being the talented person that she is ended up sewing the cushions for me as a gift for my birthday. She did such a great job. I am able to remove them because of the Velcro, which is perfect for washing!

I almost forgot about the backroom…. it previously had a fold down couch with a fold down bunk bed. The bunk bed covered up a giant window in the back and it really wasn’t needed because of all the other sleeping space that we had. It was basically being used as a junk area and the window being covered up, kept it dark and dreary.

Before:

We decided to take out the bunk bed and create a little coffee/relaxation area, as well as opening up he window and creating more light in the camper. It could also be a guest room as well.

After:

As you can also see we switched out the hideous brown curtains for patterned ones with hints of teal and grey. There was matching bath matts with the curtains so it worked out perfectly!

We also picked up this beautiful light, beachy material to make curtains for all of the windows. It was a lot of work and I still have yet to put them up… but when I do I think they will look awesome.

After putting the camper back together I got to add some teal accents. Towels, garbage can, pictures, throw blanket, pillows and a new gorgeous bed spread from Bed Bath and Beyond.

So here is the final product. I’m so thankful for my Boyfriend Lee and my mother for helping me create such a beautiful place to rest and relax. We have spent a full summer in paradise and the paint and cabinets held up very well!!!

If you are thinking about updating your camper just make sure you your research and proper prepping. It is a lot of work but is so worth it in the end. If you do have any questions do not hesitate to shoot me off a quick email. I would be glad to help you create your own little paradise.

Love,

Crystal

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Why “Valentines Day” Should be Practiced all Year Long

February 14th……. it’s supposed to be considered a day of love but instead I’ve seen disappointment and even breakups that have stemmed from this holiday. People are scrambling around to find the “perfect gift” or dinner reservations at these insanely packed restaurants, where everyone is basically sitting on top of each other while attempting to have a romantic date night with your significant other. Don’t get me wrong I know celebrating events, happiness and love should be something that we embrace, but people breaking up because they didn’t receive expensive jewelry on this day of “so called love” is a little bit crazy if you ask me. If the only day that you show love and appreciation to your partner is on Valentine’s Day…. on this day where everyone expects it, should you really be in that relationship?

What I am getting at is why don’t we practice Valentines Day all year round, instead of one day! How do we do that? It’s called effort and keeping things creative. Here are some ideas to practice all year long:

  • Surprise breakfasts in bed
  • Complimenting each other at least once a day
  • Cooking together
  • Learning something new together, whether it’s a DIY project, learning how to cook, skating lessons, shooting range etc etc
  • Get fit together
  • Leave each other surprise notes
  • Create a bucket list together
  • Unexpected surprises just because
  • Create dinner theme nights (Mexican night, appetizer night, Italiano night, dessert first night, breakfast for dinner)
  • Plan a date night once a month (take turns)

The list is really endless. I feel that putting in the effort all year long instead of throwing your efforts into one expected day would be way more exciting, and most likely way more beneficial to your relationship. Now if you are one of those couples that does practice all year long but actually enjoy celebrating Feb 14th for the fun of it… I say go ahead. Life should be full of celebrations. Just don’t make the day about expectations and who got you what or took you where. It’s just another day……

And for those of you that are single on this day don’t sweat it. You can create your own day. V-Day = me day. But… the same goes for you. You have to practice self love all year long, but using that day as a yearly reminder and an excuse to give yourself some extra pampering isn’t such a bad thing! Hit up the spa, celebrate “Gal-entines” day with the girls, take a fitness class, unplug for the day, indulge in your favourite dessert (you don’t need to share), change your look. To be honest I think that v-day is a perfect day to remind yourself to practice self love. If you can’t love yourself, then you can’t truly love someone else.

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How to Revamp your Bathroom on a Budget

In our lifetime we spend approximately 1.5 years of it in the bathroom! Some of us who like to soak in the tub for hours on end may increase that number even more. What I’m getting at is that is a lot of time, so why not turn it into a room of comfort and relaxation. Let me show you how to revamp your bathroom turning it from an eye sore into an oasis without burning a hole in your pocket.

I decided to help my parents out by decorating their bathroom while they went on vacation for two weeks!

This was the bathroom before:

Extremely bright yellow but at the same time blah. I wanted to make it relaxing as well and easier on the eyes….

First of all you need to decide a theme: I chose to do a “sea and sand theme”. My mom already had some paints downstairs to choose from that would work with the theme. She found paints that were a “mistint”, so they were discounted. These are the two colours that I chose:

Always do a test strip on the walls to see what the colours are going to dry to.

Next step is take out all of the old decor and clean the bathroom really well (especially the walls before painting)

I used a bucket of water with Dawn dish detergent and soap to clean the walls. I let them dry and applied the painters tape where needed and I was ready to paint!! Make sure you take off all of the light switch plates as well before painting!!

Next step paint!!! I made the back wall an accent wall with the blue colour and the rest the sandy colour. This is your time to be creative, you don’t always need to stick to one colour, even in a smaller space.

Next step: Purchase new light switch covers. The covers that were in this bathroom were a brass and tarnished. They dated the bathroom quite a bit. I opted for white wood ones, with a decor plate around them.

I found these at https://www.homedepot.ca Technically you can also spray paint your old ones to a different colour as well.

Next step: Find towels and face cloths to match your theme and colour scheme.

We also found the towels and face cloths when they were on sale!! So win win!!

Next step: Toothbrush Holder, cup and soap dispenser that goes with the colour scheme.

Look through your flyers to see when these products go on sale. January- Feb are usually renovation months, so these kind of items typically are discounted, or they are clearing out last years stock.

Next step: New bath matts.

Those stripped bath matts had to go…. I went to Bed Bath and Beyond and found these bad boys on sale for $19.00. (Reg $32.00 each)

https://m.bedbathandbeyond.ca/m/product/sand-and-sea-bath-rug/1018086000?keyword=sand%20and%20sea

Next step shelving. Floating shelves are such a perfect way to add extra places for storage or to use as a decorative piece to fill a wall. https://www.jysk.ca/storage/shelves/lennon-wall-shelf-white-1-1.html I also purchased one on sale for $17! The shelf was placed above the toilet.

Next step wall decor: This part was fun!!! You can do some searching around to find reasonable prices. I found this five piece circle mirror set at Winners for $19.00

I layed them out on the floor to envision how they would look on the wall and got to work. I love the end result, which I will show you in a minute!!! I also found this super cute shell, art piece from Walmart for $19.00

Last step: Purchase or search for little decor pieces to accent the bathroom.

Honestly check out the dollar store! They do have some perfect items, that can add an extra touch!

And https://www.jysk.ca/

No decor piece in those photos were over $5!

After adding up the decor, wall decor light switch plates, bath matts, paint, shelf, soap dispenser, cup, toothbrush holder etc……. The simple revamp came out to under $150.00.

Now let’s see the end result:

Honestly little changes can make a huge difference….. and you don’t need to burn a hole in your pocket to create an oasis.

Love,

Crystal

Recap of January and Why it’s Okay if it Didn’t go as Planned

January…. the month of fresh beginnings, New Years resolutions and putting a whole lot of pressure on yourself to achieve all of your goals in one month, while you still have eleven more to go before 2018 is over.

Sometimes I feel that we believe when the clock strikes 12:00 on January first that all past issues will remain in the past and all worries will disappear. We aren’t Cinderella people and we still remain the same people that we were just one month earlier. We have to be easier on ourselves… If we haven’t achieved a six pack yet or had issues completing your savings challenge or haven’t gotten to try some new challenges because of a pesky flu bug or what have you not, got in the way. February is a new month. It’s the month of love and a month that you should learn to love and appreciate yourself more than anything.

Take a moment to reflect on January, write it in a book. Is there any small goals that you achieved , that you can consider a “win” in your books. I seriously didn’t think I hit any goals until I sat down and broke my month down in small pieces. I started working out again, got my diagnosis I’ve been waiting on for 7 years, helped someone in need, learned how to cook some new meals in my instant pot, redecorated my room, started a blog, helped build a closet organizer, tried some new things such as a trampoline park all while I made sure I took care of myself. I feel that January was overall a great month. It was a month of growth, experimenting, creativity and becoming at peace with my diagnosis.

How to make your next month successful?!

  1. Write down some small goals that you know you can achieve. (These are easy wins and will help you gain some momentum and confidence to push harder)
  2. Share your goals or ideas with others. That way it will make you feel more accountable.
  3. Set rewards!!!! If you attain such goal you will treat yourself with this…. (don’t reward yourself with junk food for exercising though) That is a big no no.
  4. Read positive quotes or affirmations as you wake up. It will get you motivated and give you a positive start to your day.
  5. Make sure you have some fun!!!!! If you have some fun that is basically the best goal and what life is all about.

We will look at January as a month that you either learnt from, that you grew from or you will continue to be motivated from. I wish you all the best of luck in this new month. Remember to be easy on yourself and love yourself through the process. Smash those goals and build those dreams… we got this.

My short goals for Feb are:

  1. Save money!!! Hence why I started the no Spend February Challenge.
  2. Work out (spring is coming sooner than we think)
  3. Clean eating with full and nutritious meals
  4. Learn something new
  5. Renovate my cabinet

Love,

Crystal

How to Change the Complete Look of Your Room with a Sparkle Accent Wall

Well here I am…. I got out of the whole painting project alive!!!!! There was only one point where I actually wanted to cry…. but as Finding Nemo says “just keep swimming”, Or just keep painting in my case…. My old accent wall in my room was red and the rest of the walls white. Honestly I loved it but it constantly reminded me of the years I had spent in that bedroom suffering from my condition. I’m all about new beginnings and a fresh new look can honestly help you heal and to start some new memories. Also I love love to make things pretty πŸ€—.

Below is my before picture with an accented red wall! It’s funky and it definitely stands out. I was able to put little red accents all over the room to be brought out by my accent wall.

So here comes the fun part we went shopping at Home Depot for paint. I knew that I wanted some sort of grey as it’s my current obsession and looks so good!!!!! So this is the paint that I got http://m.behr.com/h5/mobile/en_CA/product_details?page_url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.behr.com%2Fconsumer_ca%2Fproducts%2Finterior-paint-and-primer%2Fbehr-premium-plus-ultra-eggshell-enamel

I ended up tinting it to a beautiful medium grey colour called “cool ashes”.

This is a paint and primer, so technically they say you do not need to prime it beforehand, that it should do the work. I did not want to take that chance as I was painting over a bright red wall! I purchased the 1,2,3 primer already tinted in grey. This stuff literally sticks to anything!!!

While we were at Home Depot we came across this absolutely huge and beautiful mirror that I knew would just be perfect with the new colour and it was a great price….

(Yes we fit this giant thing into a little Kia Soul).

I moved all the furniture, put down paint tarps and washed the walls with dove dish detergent and a bucket of water. It helps to remove any fingerprints or grease so the paint adheres to the wall better. I taped the sides and bottom of the wall, so I wouldn’t get paint on my white walls….. Then I started priming.

(Amanda’s working so hard) πŸ˜‚

After the primer was dry we purchased some very fine silver sparkles from http://www.michaels.com/. Make sure you use their coupons!!!! No need to spend full price.

I then mixed approx 1 and a half sparkle containers into 1/3 of the paint.

I then applied one coat to the walls and that was actually all it needed……. It looked great but I was going to see if I could make it even more dramatic! I used this shimmer glaze by rustoleum.

For whatever reason it went on horribly and left lines all over the walls. (This is when I wanted to cry) and yes I used a good roller to do it with!!!! Honestly I don’t think it’s made for walls. So basically I had to sand the surface after it dried and put another coat of my grey paint with sparkles. SUCCESS!!!!!!!!! I’m so happy it covered the mess. So here is the reveal πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

It’s hard to see the sparkles in a picture…. But in person they look so pretty, especially when a light hits the wall. I added my gorgeous mirror and moved around a couple things. I also found these super cute pictures at Home Sense to finish off the room.

I am so in love with how it turned out! It looks so different with one wall changed.

If you would like to try it out you will need:

– Paint brush, paint tarps, lint free roller, couple containers of fine sparkles, primer, paint, paint tape.

Love,

Crystal